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On Friday 14, I said good-bye to Boyfriend. It was a very emotional day for both of us, even though we knew this day was coming.

Last year Boyfriend moved to Oxford, UK because a great job offer was awaiting for him. Before he left we made planes for me to join him for a few month in the UK at the beginning of this year. First, we had to be apart for five months while I was finishing my job in Panama. At that time (August 2009), we have being together for 8 months.It is hard to say good-bye when you know five months need to past before you see your love one again. Now with the technology of video conference and IM you might think it is easy to have a long distance relationship. Think again. You cannot compare the three-dimensional view of your love with the two-dimensional one the monitor gives you. Virtual kisses do not feel as close as the real kisses. It might be easier if both partners are in the same or at least close time zone, but when there are six hours of difference, the long distance relationship takes a new level.

Good communication is the key, if you want to succeed on a long distance relationship and I want to make emphasis on the word good. You will need to show your feelings through words just like you would do in a normal relationship. Be careful when writing though, because without the facial expressions or context, miscommunication can lead to unnecessary arguments. A misplace comma can make an entire sentence say something that was not intended. I think long distance relationships need even more communication than normal relationship, because we have to make up for the absence of physical contact. We might need to learn to say in word what we are used to say by touch or looks.

This time Boyfriend and I will be apart for only three months and a half, which is less than the five months from the first time. You might think it should get easier to say good-bye the more you do it, however, last Friday 14 prove me wrong. I felt the same way I did the first time even though this time we are going to be apart for three months.

I do not know how people like my sister who has a two years long distance relationship do it. They see each other for a few weeks and then they have to be apart for months. I guess the longer you see each other the hardest it gets. For instance, Boyfriend and I have never seen each other for less than a month; we were together 8 months before our first long separation and the second time (now) we were together for three months.

The good part of not being together (physically) is that you learn to appreciate the time spent together. You do not take it for grander

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